In this article regarding decision dilemmas, we are not talking about indecisiveness on what outfit to wear or what to cook for dinner. We are talking about much more serious decisions that we all face at various points in our life. Whenever we find ourselves in negative situations we often tend to blame others, sets of circumstances or bad luck. The truth is that most of the time our current situation is a result of previous decisions. Therefore, decisions are extremely powerful and important as they truly shape our destiny.
Knowing this is what adds to the difficulty that we sometimes experience when faced with important decisions. In some cases, it may be that our decisions will have a profound effect on other people’s lives too. Some people find it easy to make decisions, and do so without much contemplation. Others can dwell on the task in hand for days, weeks or even months; seemingly ending up more indecisive than where they were at the outset.
Here are some common decision subjects:
- Breaking up
- Career or job change
- Education path
- Getting married
- Having children
- Legal issues
- Moving home
- Retirement
How do we know how to make the right decision?
It is commonly stated that in terms of both personal and business situations, the best strategy is to make some form of decision as the longer a decision is unmade, usually the more negative the consequences. However, in reality this is easier said than done.
One commonly used tactic to help make a decision is to list all the pro’s and con’s on a piece of paper and then make a logical decision based on the results. If you have ever tried this method, then you may recall that sometimes you will still stall to move regardless of the confirmative logical data provided before you. This is because there is some message coming from your inner-self that is conflicting the decision.
The opposite methodology to this would be the ‘go with your gut’ decision process; whereby you simply follow what you are feeling, giving less importance to the logical aspects. Again, this can also receive resistance when your head begins to state that it’s surely wrong.
So how can we resolve these conflicts and ensure a congruent decision?
Help is Here
In my coaching practise, I use a range of applications that can help integrate the best of both logical thinking and inner feeling strategies. I have helped clients process important decisions that before the coaching were causing them increasing stress and anxiety. During the coaching process, they were able to make the necessary decision with confidence. Not only that, in many cases further coaching helped facilitate focus on the application of the required actions that followed the decision itself.
If you are facing a tough and important decision and it is causing you discomfort, then maybe you would like to consider coaching to help with this. Please connect with me to discuss in more detail.